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Hater app matches you with people who hate the same things

Common things to hate include Donald Trump, socialising with colleagues, investment bankers, Lady Gaga, tofu, zumba, complaining, Downton Abbey and cargo shorts.

Long walks on the beach, holding hands in front of the fire, a walk in the rain, the smell of freshly cut grass - we all know the hackneyed things people say they love when they're looking for a romantic partner. But that may all be about to change.

Last week, a new dating app called Hater was launched, to match people on account of their pet peeves as opposed to their passions.

Hater is free and is available in New Zealand on iPhones only.

The app, which aims to "help you meet someone who hates the same stuff as you", offers the user a selection of thousands of things for which they can register their love, indifference or downright hatred.

These range (widely) from Donald Trump to socialising with colleagues, via investment bankers, Lady Gaga, tofu, zumba, complaining, Downton Abbey and LinkedIn.

The app then builds a profile based on those answers to match you with like-minded users.

Hater is free and is available in New Zealand on iPhones only.

Its 29-year-old creator, former Goldman Sachs employee Brendan Alper, explained: "What we hate is an important part of who we are, but it's often swept under the rug in our public persona."

There's even science to back it up - in 2006, Jennifer Bosson, a social psychologist at the University of South Florida, led a series of studies that examined how people bond via shared negative attitudes toward others.

"There's something really powerful about the discovery of shared negative attitudes," she said, calling the mutual antipathy a "third entity".

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The object of dislike is often more trivial than it is universal - a celebrity, for example, or a type of food. She surmised that when people reveal something they dislike to a fairly new acquaintance, it creates a form of intimacy.

Anyone can share pleasantries - it is taking the risk of sharing something negative that establishes a certain level of trust in a new relationship.

Journalist Esther Walker told me that she and her husband Giles are "entirely bonded" by their common disinterests.

"I know for a fact that Giles fell in love with me when I once did a very cruel impersonation of a Eurotrash banker saying how much he loves his Lexus, because we both hate Eurotrash," she explained.

"I fell in love with Giles when he revealed that he hates festivals - the very principle, the associated fashion, the kind of people who go."

Their other joint dislikes include "Game of Thrones, Italy, horror films, 4x4s in London, being late, late people, eating after 8.30pm". Oh, and "Patek Philippe watch adverts".

The Telegraph, London

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