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Erika Ettin: In online dating, grammar matters

Everyone is smart in a different way, so it's important to decide if someone's initial "flaw" is really a deal-breaker for you.

OPINION: When you're putting yourself out there in the vast online dating pool, whether on Tinder, eHarmony, or anything in between, it's important to take the time to read and re-read your profile to make sure that "your" (you're) not messing up easy words and hurting your chance to find the perfect match.

Most people think writing an online dating profile is a one-time affair, and they rarely change it based on its success (or lack thereof).

They also try to write it as quickly as humanly possible.

But this is one thing you really should spend your time on, because you're putting yourself out there for the world to see, so you might as well put your best foot forward.

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When was the last time you read what you wrote in your profile that fateful day when you signed up for an online dating site?


If you can't remember, or if you have to look back at your profile when someone sends a message referencing something in it, it's been too long.

When you're finally done writing your profile – having spent the appropriate amount of time on it, of course – I can't stress enough the importance of getting yourself an "unpaid intern" (aka a friend, brother, etc) to read through it in case you've missed any glaring errors.

Even when you write all day, like I do, I find careless typos. And, if I publish an article with one of these typos, I have to assume that I'll be judged by my readers for it ... the same thing happens on an online dating site or app, so be careful.

Oftentimes, the language of online dating gets mangled. It's like we have a new vocabulary, one that wouldn't make our English teachers proud. I don't know about you, but I probably wouldn't go out with a reformed "cereal dater" (I prefer oatmeal), someone who rides the "stationery" bike (to write notes?), or someone who wants an "intellagent" partner (hmm...).

A final word: As I said earlier, no one is perfect. Maybe your new beau or babe will be a terrible speller but great at storytelling, identifying different kinds of butterflies based on their wingspan, or doing calculus.

Everyone is smart in a different way, so it's important to decide if someone's initial "flaw" is really a deal-breaker for you. Either way, give your profile the final once-over just in case, because no one wants to go out with someone who is "humerus" – arms just aren't that funny.

Erika Ettin is the founder of A Little Nudge, where she helps others navigate the often intimidating world of online dating. 

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